Okay well this is a debate that I have time and time again with many people, those in world and also those in RL (Real Life).
For many of us we stumble through our SL days and have a laugh and some fun along the way, but there will be that time that you meet that person that you like to spend time with and like having around.. I am no different, my partner Rosanne is always great to be around and we always get to laugh about something :)
The great debates is this.. Do people seem flirt more with you when you have a partner listed in your profile? Now I was always thinking that having a partner in your profile would scare away all those people that you wanted to keep at bay! Well to tell you of my experiences and these are only mine... I have found that having a partner has depended on the AV.. Does that sound odd? Yes it might I guess!
Let me explain, I have a old AV that was a host at Sweethearts Jazz and while there I was hit on all the time... As soon as I was partnered the whole flirting went through the roof and man it was like feeding time at the zoo... I was glad to leave at that club when the time come.. :) Now in my current AV and being a DJ I was flirted with for ages and then when I partnered with Rosanne it went totally the the other way! It was like I dropped off the face of SL with one change...
So is it in someways a visual thing? They see you partner and then think your no longer available! For them it becomes the thrill of the chase and a test to see if you can tempt you away from your partner... For me I am not sure what there intentions are! In someways with some people yes that is totally it, its a test, their aim is to distract and tempt you away.. for others it appears they were just to scared to say they liked you at that point when you were single for want of a better word..
I guess I am just curious as to what others might have experienced and your own stories.. So feel free to add your comments :)
The great debate.....I've had pretty much the same avi since I stared playing SL in earnest, but have tweaked the skin a bit and developed my own "style" of dressing. So, I can't chime in on that piece of the puzzle, but being partnered does not seem to be a deterrent whatsoever when it comes to being hit on! Of course, if you're partnered with a superhero I guess all the guys think you come with some special skills !
ReplyDeleteOne last thing? Working as a DJ or host definitely puts you in the limelight, and you're forced to appear more outgoing. I think that is the *real* attractor!
*waves* It's me, Rosanne! I don't have a google account so have to post as Anonymous.
ReplyDeleteI can't resist commenting on this one. Did you do this on purpose, Jester? lol
The first thing to factor in is the location. Sweethearts, was a location with the focus of meeting people and flirting. Some were there to cause drama, participate in drama, or complain about the drama (groans at the thought of it at every shift). Therefore, with both of us being a host, they knew we had to be nice to them for our two hour shift and the worst that could happen is being ejected if they crossed a line. Drama! What fun!! *rolls eyes* It was probably fun for them to see if they could fluster us, and it was probably great fun to see if they could tempt us away from each other. Again, drama!
The next thing to figure in is that we kinda hid our relationship prior to partnering. We also were not seen together very often at work after partnering. So, people might have thought it would be worth a go to see if they could lure either of us away from the other thinking we were not a strong couple. Also without the other partner near, there was no worry of getting a public put down.
Now, to address the decrease in attention with your being a DJ, there are several reasons....
1. People are at the location to hear the music and party. It's a different location with a different focus. Yes, some are there to meet people, but most are there to party.
2. I'm around much of the time as your host and we interact in local. They don't want the risk of being ripped on in local by me and you. The music crowd does not do drama...they are there to party.
3. This is probably the best reason NOT to hit on a live DJ...single or partnered. The mic!! You have a microphone and you could turn them down on voice for all to hear. Again, they don't want to risk the drama or the humiliation.
Therefore, in conclusion, it is my opinion it is not the AV but the location's patrons. ;)
*psst...I think both AVs are hot!*
okay well theres several very interesting points you have both made... Yes Karma being in the eye I am sure does play a factor in this.. As when I was at Sweethearts and working I was hit on as Rosanne was through out the two hours were were working... But as soon as I ended the shift and stood in the main lobby... the same loggy I was greating people to the flirting almost stopped there and then... So I do think that public eye has a huge sway on things...
ReplyDeleteAlso I think your right as well Rosanne, I guess its also down to the venue that you are at or working in. As you said Rosanne Sweethearts was a place to meet people. So much so that they had there own SL dating agency.. Which if you search for it can be seen on the web...
But what is it that makes people be drawn to others in plain view ... Is it as Rosanne says its to see if you can tempt someone away from another.... But the flirting for me was still there when I was single... It just got worse when I partnered!
it would be interesting to get some feedback from others that are current hosts that are out there... Just to see if its the venue or the public eye thats the attraction...