SL what, when and why?

Hmmm let me see!  I think that this post will seem a little odd or maybe not, it will depend if your having the same thoughts or questioning thoughts as me.. If you are then I can recommend a great doctor ;)

SL and the customs and ideals have for a while now given rise to many questions, some can be asked and answered others are ones that are so complex that we might all loose the will to live answering or trying to answer lol. So these questions I will duly skip :)

We and I mean each and everyone of us is here for a reason, or has a story t be told on what brought you to SL..  I have listened to loads of people and heard there reasons, some and most are because it's a fun and and exciting way to meet new friends, this I agree with and have met loads of great people on SL. Others tell you want to hear, but they soon give up there dark secrets even without thinking with just a few comments they give themselves away..  But why we are here is only really the tip of what might be a ice berg.

Okay back to SL and away from my totally gibberish ranting lol, I might digress but I will try to stay on game :)  And I guess that what I will say might not conform to others ideas and or thoughts, and maybe considered upsetting or wrong..  For those people I am truly sorry and I will see you in court :)

SL has a huge following and has grown or at least remained stable over the years, but that's no concern of mine apart from the money I invest each month.. lol  In world we are all set to have fun and meet new friends and have fun, hence us wanting to go on to SL, but for others SL is more than that, some see it as work as they earn a SL income from it, some even earn enough to help support there RL lives..  But does SL suddenly become very serious when this happens, and does it detract from the fun we started out trying o have?  For me I think it would, by simply working as a DJ i find myself thinking of the tips I am earning rather than the fun SL should be.. So in that vain I have fallen foul of the working and money trap!  But I realise this and try and bring back the fun, its not always easy to do though..

Another area of SL that brings rise to questions and this is going to be a hugely controversial and argued one I think, online SL partnerships!  Yes we all have them, me included! But why do we have them and what do we get from them?  I can hear my SL partner bashing those keys with a reply even now!  I came to SL and my aim was to have fun, but as I have already said we fall foul of the serious side of SL.. Partnerships are one of these serious sides and the emotional things it all brings as a by product off all the serious stuff.

Is it right to be in some sort of a SL relationship when in RL are for some of us married and with any luck happily ;).... Does it mean that we are cheating on our RL wives/husbands which ever you have? Sometimes people on SL go way beyond SL and take it to a whole new level... One person I have heard of left there RL husband for the person she fell in love with on SL.. All sounds very crazy to me! But as they say what ever floats your boat..

So sticking with SL and partnerships and even SL husbands and wives..  there always seems to be a high level of seriousness that comes with all this, I guess most people feel desire to be that way and to want that side of SL.... For me I want the fun side of SL, the one that brings me great music good friends and laughter.  I am going to get such a slap for saying all this but it's all true.. we all get ourselves tied down with the serious side of SL, the working, the desire to partner someone and marry them..  So why do we all feel the need to live all of our real lives in SL? shouldn't SL be different and not like RL?

How real can it be? Several people have always said, how can anyone love someone if they have never really met in RL!  Well it would appear people do as the word "love" is spouted by loads in SL and the amount of tracks I play for partners asking me to tell them its for the love of there life....  SL is a strange place and one I try to get my head around, not very well I hasten to add.

Let me think on how to say this, there must be people out there that are with partners, I'm not bothered in what flavours if you know what I mean.. But I have found and this is going to bite me in the arse, that when your partnered you find that you suddenly become the property of?  Okay I have never been a saint, god I have been in trouble a lot when was first on her as another name, and a name I still hold dear to me :) But as I am not the property of someone I am frowned upon or looked at questioningly when I talk to others of the opposite sexual AV type I mean...  And dancing with anyone is a strict no go...   Is this the right way to be when SL is about meeting friends and having fun??

So to summarise this and I will do this quickly as my plane out is leaving soon as my SL partner will be on the war path after this post :)

Is it the best thing to be partnered on SL?  does the advantage of having a close friend to spend time with out weigh the restrictions that come with it.. The loss of freedom and right to be there person you started out to be...
If I don't post for a while I am in Cuba and staying low for a while...