Common Cause.

At one time or another there is a time when we meet someone we get on with, my guessing is that we all have at one time or another. Now, I can only call upon the things I have heard and things I have been told and maybe a personal experience of my own, one of the most common problems that befall a SL friendship, partnership or marriage is one of two things. Both of which are normal in sort of a RL way, but on SL gives rise to a never ending source of drama and trouble.

Now I mention this at this point in time mainly as I am now a single AV, and perhaps look at things in a different way than maybe I may have done before. I believe that trust within a SL relationship is one of the biggest causes of things falling apart, which leads on to the second, the desire to want more, what I mean is the demand of one partner or the other, for more time and contact, more affection etc. Which is also coupled with the request to reduce contact or time talking to others, contact or talking to others is seen as time that could be spent with your respective other half.

All of this obviously can leave people feeling restricted and maybe even the feeling of being controlled. It seems a common pattern that SL relationships go through, I don't know why, maybe it's our own self insecurities that make us that way, or maybe the controlling side of us showing though. No matter what it is when the signs start you know the slippery path has begun!

Now I want to say that this isnt the case for all relationships, hell I know a few that have being going strong for years and they seem very happy, and I think we all look for that scenario being the one we are aspiring to be in. I sometimes wonder how or why things change and what was the trigger.  I am sure that someone who has been like that may know or be able to explain what happened and why, I would ask them to post a reply and let us know. You can post without leaving your details, and hence hiding your SL.

I am a curious guy, maybe nosey even, but until we can understand why these things, how do we know who to put them right or even find a solution..  Anyway I would be interested to hear your opinions and for that matter any other reason SL relationships have failed.